One of my dreams was to get married early so I could have children early and enjoy my husband while still young. It was a perfect plan. So when at 27 I was NOT in a committed relationship let alone married I THOUGHT SOMETHING WAS WRONG with me. I prayed and fasted but as soon as I got into a committed relationship he would either be putting pressures on me for sex, asking if I could be pregnant before the wedding or not just a committed Christian.
By my judgment, I am a smart, hardworking, pretty and intelligent lady. I graduated with an excellent result, had a good job, dined with important people, and lived in a nice apartment in a choice area in Lagos BUT NO MAN seemed interested in a long term relationship with me. I was qualified, I was good enough and I felt I was better than some of my friends who got married before me. “They are not even as pretty and smart as me, yet they are getting the best men for husband.” I thought.
Isn’t that what we do sometimes, instead of us to be happy when God is blessing a friend, we stay at a corner, grumbling and murmuring about how we think we deserve the blessing more than the other person who got it. As believers, we must learn to celebrate others and rejoice with them while we are waiting for God’s blessings to manifest in our lives.
Then God taught me that as long as I kept LOOKING FOR THE MAN BY MYSELF I WILL NOT ONLY DELAY THE PROCESS BUT I WILL NOT GET WHAT HE APPROVES OF.
I quit my ‘search’ to focus on Him and myself. I studied the bible, volunteered to assist fellowships, joined bus evangelism, published my first novel, went back to school, volunteered as a regular speaker for a youth outreach, published a relationship magazine…just having fun with God and myself and helping people.
The man showed up! Guess what? He was there all the while!
IF YOU CHASE GOD HE BECOMES OBLIGATED TO GIVE YOU YOUR DESIRES. DON’T SAY YOU ARE WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PERSON, GET BUSY BEING THE RIGHT PERSON. And enjoy being the right person. God has good intentions for you to be happy with the right partner but your priorities have to be right.
SEEK HIM FIRST.